The science behind RegainLove

Attachment theory explains how we form emotional bonds and why some relationships are more stable than others. Understand your attachment style and your ex's so you can work intentionally on restoring your connection.

Key idea: People develop attachment patterns in childhood (secure, anxious, avoidant) that shape their relationship behavior in adulthood. These patterns influence how we allow closeness, handle conflict, and respond to breakups.

This theory views relationships through a cost-benefit lens: we stay when the perceived rewards outweigh the costs. Learn how you can raise the "value" of your relationship in your ex's eyes.

Key idea: People evaluate relationships by the ratio of rewards to costs. They compare this to their comparison level (expected satisfaction) and their comparison level for alternatives (what else seems available).

Emotional intelligence is the ability to perceive, understand, and regulate your own and others' emotions. It is crucial for successful relationships and key to handling heartbreak and rebuilding closeness.

Key idea: People with high emotional intelligence can recognise, understand, and manage their emotions. They show empathy, communicate more effectively, and resolve conflicts more constructively - all essential skills for relationship success.

This theory explains how relationships deepen through gradual self-disclosure - like an onion with many layers. Learn how to gently rebuild closeness after a break-up without overwhelming your ex.

Key idea: Relationships develop through mutual, step-by-step disclosure of personal information, moving from surface topics to deep, intimate ones. The process unfolds in stages and can also reverse (depenetration after a break-up).